As the new Division Coordinator of the San Diego Men’s Division, Chris Christopher is spending a considerable amount of time and energy focusing his men on the “mature masculine leader” aspect of the mission statement of Mentor Discover Inspire.
Why?
“Because it is the missing link,” he said. “We occasionally cause greatness; we mentor regularly; we have some success at men building successful families, careers and communities, but we assume ‘and as mature masculine leaders.’ I don’t believe that can be left to an assumption.”
Christopher has requested his entire core team to contribute their own definitions of the term, asking for attributes that constitute a mature masculine leader. Having spent five years on the MDI Board focused on the subject, he is even dedicating a central part of his first division meeting here.
He said, “If we create mature masculine leaders all the other stuff happens automatically. That is what mature masculine leaders would do anyway.”
To kick-start his men, Christopher came up with his own “Attributes of a mature masculine man.” They are listed below.
- A man who has mastered fatherhood for both sons and daughters if a father
- A man other men look to for guidance and advice
- A man that other men follow because they choose to, not because they have to
- A man who can stay calm in any storm
- A man who lives his six tasks in relationships with women
- A man who respects women
- A man who lives the code of honor impeccably
- A man who lives his terms
- A man that gives back to other men on their way up and to his peers
- A man that gives back to his community and the world
- A man with a strong faith or belief system
- A man who keeps his word
- A successful self-sufficient man
- A man that has completed with his father
- A man that can have fun
- A man that has mastered being three-dimensional
- A man that has been battle tested
- A man that has known pain
- A man that has made big commitments and kept them
- A man that can make problems no problem
- A man that has lost
- A man that has won
- A man that can and will tell the truth to other men
- A man that has strong courage and uses it
- A man that knows right from wrong and does the right thing even when he doesn’t have to…