David Plante
Columnist
In honor of Valentine’s Day month, here you go …
I was reminded this month (by my wife of course) that I have been slacking in my responsibilities around being married. She is a good women, and so I picked up a copy of my book and read it from cover to cover.
I was reminded what I was supposed to be doing, and how I was supposed to be, and realized that I slipped off track. Things are much better now, and I am proud of the work that I do, and it shows. I figured I would share some stuff with you that YOU might find helpful, or even better, some stuff that you can give to someone else so that it could be helpful to them! Enjoy, and Happy Holidays!
When writing “A Married Man’s Survival Guide,” we sought out famous quotes for our chapter headings but found that we could not fit all of them in. Here are some of the others along with some of our own that we found to be simply good words to live by. Find a few that ring true for you!
• A man’s track record means nothing to the feminine. A man could be perfect for ten years, but if he is an asshole for thirty seconds, his woman acts like he’s always been one. ~ David Deida
• Never assume that you fully know your woman—or any woman for that matter! ~ A Married Man’s Survival Guide
• A woman will forgive a man anything, except his failure to ask to be forgiven. ~ Rumi
• The ultimate survival of your relationship depends on your discipline.
~ A Married Man’s Survival Guide
• Men always want to be a woman’s first love — women like to be a man’s last romance. ~ Oscar Wilde
• Balanced masculinity is not embracing your “feminine” but rather learning to balance strength (your dick) with softness (your balls); power with vulnerability. ~ A Married Man’s Survival Guide
• To be happy with a man you must understand him a lot and love him a little. To be happy with a woman you must love her a lot and not try to understand her at all. ~ Helen Rowland
• If a man prioritizes his relationship over his highest purpose, he weakens himself and cheats his woman. ~ A Married Man’s Survival Guide
• We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly. ~ Sam Keen
• Denying the fact that you have a killer inside of you, and failing to know him will inevitably result in his manifesting at the worst time. ~ A Married Man’s Survival Guide
• Man can never be a woman’s equal in the spirit of selfless service with which nature has endowed her. ~ Mohandas Gandhi
• Don’t expect your wife to be your mother and don’t demand that the relationship provide you with what your men should do. ~ A Married Man’s Survival Guide
• Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. ~ Rumi
• Stop looking for logical explanations as to why she feels the way she does—emotions are not logical. ~ A Married Man’s Survival Guide
• Women are meant to be loved, not to be understood. ~ Oscar Wilde
• Rule #1: No affairs except the one you have with your wife. Remember how to seduce her. ~ A Married Man’s Survival Guide
• Relationships are made of talk, and talk is for girls and women. ~ Deborah Tannen
• Practice the five principles of the Art of War: Righteousness, Timing, Location, Leadership, and Execution. ~ A Married Man’s Survival Guide
• You’ll never get what you really want. All you can do is give what you really want! ~ David Deida
• When your wife tells you how she feels, she is just giving you a status report. ~ A Married Man’s Survival Guide
• A woman’s sense of self is defined through her feelings and the quality of her relationships. ~ John Gray
• The greatest skill you can practice in a relationship is silent, attentive listening. Shut up and pay attention. ~ A Married Man’s Survival Guide
• Eve left Adam, to meet the Devil in private. ~ Alexander Pope
• No matter what you do or how big the gift was, it only nets you one point.
~ A Married Man’s Survival Guide
• Anger is a necessary part of the dance of love. Without anger we have no fire, no thunder and lightning to defend the sanctuary of the self.
~ Sam Keen
• Your woman possesses more skills and talents than you could possibly imagine. Don’t try to compete or measure up—it is a waste of time for you and demeaning to her. ~ A Married Man’s Survival Guide
• When women go wrong, men go right after them. ~ Mae West
• Each woman is three women: a queen, a little girl, and a wild woman yearning to break the rules. ~ A Married Man’s Survival Guide
• Women are never disarmed by compliments. Men always are. ~ Oscar Wilde
• A woman’s primary sexual organ is her mind. ~ A Married Man’s Survival Guide
• You can ravish your woman so deeply that her surrender breaks your heart into light. ~ David Deida
• Make sex about her—the more you focus on her need, the more she can and will surrender. ~ A Married Man’s Survival Guide
• Women give to men the very gold of their lives. But they invariably want it back in such very small change. ~ Oscar Wilde
• Her upsetness need not be yours — practice keeping that perspective so that you can respond appropriately. ~ A Married Man’s Survival Guide
• Plane crashes are more likely to be the result of an accumulation of minor difficulties and seemingly trivial malfunctions any one of which, by itself, would not be problematic. ~ Malcolm Gladwell
• What you say doesn’t matter — it’s what you do and continue to do consistently that will make the difference. ~ A Married Man’s Survival Guide
• Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will. ~ Mohandas Gandhi
• Regaining your woman’s trust requires consistent behavior over an extended period of time. ~ A Married Man’s Survival Guide
• A woman under stress is not immediately concerned with finding solutions to her problems but rather seeks relief by expressing herself and being understood. ~ John Gray
• It is not a matter of “if” she will find out about your affair, it is only a matter of “when” — don’t go there. ~ A Married Man’s Survival Guide
• You know who must be very secure in their masculinity? Male ladybugs. ~ Jay Leno
• When you stop focusing on your woman, you lose the capacity to be enchanted and infatuated by her — do one thing each day exclusively for her and watch what happens to you. ~ A Married Man’s Survival Guide
If you find some of these that work for you, tape them to your computer screen or your bathroom mirror as a reminder of what you are up to. Text me a picture of the note that inspires you, (413) 575-0194 and where you put it up. If you want all the others that we kept and printed, get yourself a copy of the book! You won’t be disappointed.
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