{"id":14839,"date":"2020-07-28T20:12:22","date_gmt":"2020-07-29T00:12:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mentordiscoverinspire.org\/2020\/07\/28\/the-five-rs-needed-before-asking-for-forgiviness\/"},"modified":"2021-04-25T17:01:17","modified_gmt":"2021-04-25T21:01:17","slug":"the-five-rs-needed-before-asking-for-forgiviness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mentordiscoverinspire.org\/the-five-rs-needed-before-asking-for-forgiviness\/","title":{"rendered":"The Five Rs Needed Before Asking for Forgiveness"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
Todd Sorbo<\/strong> \nMDI Contributor<\/strong><\/pre>\n\n\n\n
I have thought a lot about forgiveness in my life.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n
I have thought about the people I have wronged, the people I have hurt intentionally or unintentionally. I have thought about where I haven\u2019t forgiven myself. Maybe it’s because of my Christian upbringing and beliefs, I seek to understand how to forgive and how to accept the forgiveness offered by others. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
The God I believe in has certainly offered forgiveness and I have accepted it, though somewhere in my mind I still question if I deserve it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Because of this questioning, I looked into the act of forgiveness and created an exercise for men\u2019s team that would allow all the men in my circle to look closer at the act as it applies to them no matter their spiritual beliefs. I have used many sourced to formulate these ideas; most of these are not my own but are at the core of what I believe. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
So here we go.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
First let me start with a quote I found somewhere that I thinks defines why forgiveness is important to each of us. \u201cThe only thing that stops a cycle of hurt and bitterness is forgiveness.\u201d  <\/em>I want to look at both sides of this. I want to look at the act of asking for forgiveness and our role in forgiving someone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Marriam Webster defines “forgive:” To cease to feel resentment against (an offender): To pardon, to forgive one\u2019s enemies.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n
No matter your goals, you may not be able to move forward or succeed until you forgive your loved ones, friends, yourself or even strangers who harmed and wronged you, whether deliberately or unintentionally.

When you feel forgiveness in your heart, it’s easier to be happy, productive, accomplished and be at peace with yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Absolving and pardoning another is really less about other people and more about being true, kind and respectful of ourselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Likewise, humbly and remorsefully atoning for our wrongs and transgressions against others is a way to give ourselves the esteem and value we deserve.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When you do not forgive someone else or do not ask for the forgiveness for the wrongs you have committed this can:<\/p>\n\n\n\n