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Rich O\u2019Keeffe\nContributing Writer<\/strong><\/pre>\n
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\u201cHey, Rich. Got a question for you. How free are you as a man?\u201d<\/p>\n
An editor I know posed that to me. Hmm. Interesting question.<\/p>\n
Of course, being me, my brain came up with about eight answers all at once before I could open my mouth and respond. “Mostly,” I said. And that is entirely due to the fact that I feel more or less free, but hadn\u2019t truly thought about it very much. And yet I wanted to give a quick answer. This article is my actual answer.<\/p>\n
Freedom is an interesting construct to me. With many layers and many values. And a whole boatload of oughttas, and shoulds rolled up into it. Before I get into it, a brief detour.<\/p>\n
Ordinarily, when I am writing, my technique is to just do a stream of consciousness thing, capture my thoughts, then spend a bit of time editing, wordsmithing, etc. But that failed me this time. Just because this topic is so frigging huge. No kidding \u2013 I started just jotting down some ideas and themes and listed about 20 different factors\/aspects in just a couple of minutes. And some of those thoughts are almost a novel in and of themselves.<\/p>\n
So I started pondering \u2013 what does it mean to be free?<\/p>\n
On a base level, yeah I\u2019m free. I have political freedom. Freedom to pursue any profession I wish, freedom to enter into any romantic relationship I wish, yada, yada. There is nothing that prevents me as a \u201crule\u201d for any of that.<\/p>\n
When it comes to political freedom, there are two general constructs \u2013 “Freedom from” constructs and “Freedom to” constructs – which are more or less ubiquitous in America and Canada.<\/p>\n
Freedom from<\/strong> constructs are those structures in our bylaws and constitutions that prevent governments from intruding into some places in our lives. For example, both the US and Canadian constitutions preclude government from creating laws that limit how one chooses to worship \u2013 we are free from government intrusion into our religion.<\/p>\n
Freedom to<\/strong> constructs are those where we are free to pursue courses of actions. Both the US and Canada have in their constitution the right to peaceably assemble \u2013 you are free to assemble peaceably. Sure, there are problems and each country\u2019s history is rife with abuses. As well as centuries of course adjustments, and legal cases, and revisions to (generally) add protections or repair injustices (Americans with Disabilities Act, or the 1983 Canadian Constitutional Proclamation that strengthened the rights of aboriginal peoples are a couple of examples). So, I believe that I have political freedom.<\/p>\n
For the most part, most of America and Canada have fairly extensive political freedoms. We also have pretty extensive \u201cfirst world\u201d freedoms. Food and shelter are plentiful. Bombs don\u2019t get dropped onto our villages and towns. Packs of armed thugs don\u2019t raid our houses in the middle of the night and forcibly conscript our children into their armies. Most of the places we live in are fairly crime free \u2013 we have tremendous personal safety. We have solid employment prospects. Great educational and university systems. And we take for granted technological marvels that would boggle the imagination, ones that talking about 150 years ago would get you sent to a crazy person place . So, again, lots of freedom there.<\/p>\n
I still have a nagging sensation in my head that I haven\u2019t hit the matter yet, though.<\/p>\n
There are a boatload of ways that I don\u2019t particularly … feel … free, even though I have the actual freedom to pursue anything I want. So perhaps that is the crux on this. Put differently, no decision is ever made in a vacuum with no other factors involved. People have lots and lots of places where they may feel like they have no freedom to take a course of action, yet it is more the case that they are choosing that other thing as having more importance to them. Which is fine \u2013 there is nothing wrong in it. But it saps the power of it all when one says, \u201cI\u2019m not free to pursue my dream job\u201d instead of \u201cProviding a solid income to my family and making damn sure there is a roof over their heads is more important to me than earning a living that way.” So perhaps it is more the case that in those places I do not feel free, I have made other choices that are more important to me. Especially when that choice seems like it ought to be something more noble or bigger or less selfish. Or even less based in fear.<\/p>\n
Don\u2019t get me wrong \u2013 it is prudent to be safe much of the time. Yes, it is risky to quit your relatively high-paying gig to pursue something that may never get close to paying what you get now. Those risks are higher than I know my level of tolerance. There\u2019s no path that you should choose either \u2013 we are all inspired when someone makes a bold choice that pans out, like the actor Ken Jeong who was a highly successful doctor when he left that to pursue his dream of being an actor. But for every Ken Jeong, there are dozens, perhaps hundreds or even thousands, for whom that was something that didn\u2019t work out.<\/p>\n
With all that said \u2013 here are the categories of things that we allow to sap us from that sense of freedom. And a thought or three on each that might help you find that feeling of freedom you seek.<\/p>\n
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  1. Constraints given by who we are<\/u> <\/strong>\u2013 these are the places in our life where a course of action would run counter to who we have defined ourself to be. Interestingly enough, a lot of the time these choices don\u2019t occur as a lack of freedom. People often feel empowered when they are choosing from these places, yet it is still a place where some sense of freedom can feel lost. I sometimes find it frustrating when I\u2019m having a moment where I want to do something different, yet who I am compels me to act otherwise.<\/li>\n
  2. External constraints<\/u> <\/strong>\u2013 We all have them. Known consequences, areas not under our control, A simple example is the set of laws that we live under. Now, you have the freedom to go ahead and take the action; it\u2019s just that the consequence of that act is higher than it\u2019d be worth. Just the other day, this complete a-hole cut me off on the highway. Several less than kind or polite potential responses immediately came to mind. Rather than spend the next couple of years in the legal system, I just backed off and let him or her get the hell away from me.This aspect has some definite places where freedom gets constrained in tangible fashions. Convicted felons have some things that they will never be allowed to do again, for example. Yet, one still has the freedom to take the action \u2013 you\u2019re just gonna pay for it. And probably pay more than the value it would be to take that action.There are certainly some life parameters that are external constraints for many of us. If you are living paycheck to paycheck, you have some options that would be imprudent to consider. And some choices that just won\u2019t be available to you. (Silly example \u2013 if you are living paycheck to paycheck, you will almost certainly be unable to take a six-month luxury cruise around the world in the next year or two). If you live in certain areas of our countries, some options are off the table. If you have extensive college debts, you will have some places you will not be free to act.Another side to this \u2013 many of the external constraints we experience have to do with talents we have. Or specific demands that are required as prerequisites for the desired endeavor. When I was a kid, I kind of wanted to be a pro football player. Well, that would be all well and good except for the fact that I lack the physical tools to be successful at it \u2013 I\u2019m too short, too slow, with way too little athletic ability to ever even get a tryout. But I maintain that I was free to pursue it if I had wished. Hell, there is nothing specifically precluding me from doing it today, well except that I am slower, weaker and old.<\/li>\n
  3. Which leads to \u2013 It\u2019ll never work<\/u>.<\/strong> Look, there are a bunch of ideas where it would be imprudent, impractical or even flat out stooooooopid to pursue. For most of us, chasing that dream job, or up and moving somewhere very different than you have always lived, we stop the thinking process at the dream level. We have a thought, we ponder what that thought might look and feel like for a time, then we file that thought away in the \u201cbucket list item I have no intention of making happen\u201d folder. We do that because we know how unlikely it will be to take that action and succeed at it at higher levels than we are succeeding today. Or underneath it all, we know that we don\u2019t deserve it (more on that in a bit). What happens is that we have a thought along the lines of “it won\u2019t work” \u2013 maybe even why it won\u2019t since we like to have evidence and be right as well. Too many people lose their dreams over this thought.<\/li>\n
  4. Safety and Fear<\/u> <\/strong>\u2013 I was gonna leave this area for last. In part because of how huge it is. And because this is the area that I believe is most relevant for people to address. The voice that speaks to us inside our heads is the most trusted advisor that most of us have. (I\u2019m talking to that thought process that just replied \u201cWhat voice?\u201d) This voice is not \u2013 repeat NOT \u2013 your friend. It has a very specific role in your life. A valuable role. It is designed to keep you safe. The voice that tells hunter-gatherers that they shouldn\u2019t eat that green berry. It takes over in fight-or-flight situations to keep you physically as safe as possible. Without that voice, you wouldn\u2019t have survived this long. It is a key part of your success as a human.That voice always speaks on the side of caution and safety. Many of the choices we contemplate making are indeed unsafe \u2013 not in the \u201cyour life will be in imminent danger\u201d way in which that voice is useful \u2013 but in the \u201ccarefully crafted persona that is being challenged\u201d way. And the voice is committed to keeping that persona free from risk.It is actually fairly simple \u2013 you will never feel “free\u201d if you are also feeling unsafe. Which does not mean that you are constrained from the choice, you will just feel like you are having to risk something to make that choice. Or take a scary leap into the unknown. Or be courageous in some fashion.Aside to the parents of children reading this \u2013 here is a place you may have been struggling with and not realizing how you caused the problem. A lot of parents have a problem getting their kids to tell them the truth. And you\u2019ve struggled \u2013 you\u2019ve tried yelling, cajoling, pleading, consequences, grounding, taking away their stuff, and on and on and yet the problem has persisted. I promise you that at some level you have made it unsafe for your kids to tell you the truth. If in any way, shape or form they have ever told you the truth and you have lit into them for it, they are going to be reticent to let you see the truth without working for it. And they sure as hell aren\u2019t gonna come to you with something important if they have ever gotten in trouble for something and you have punished them for telling the truth. I don\u2019t mean to say that you have to condone what they do or did \u2013 but if you have ever reacted emotionally and piled on when they screwed up something small, they sure aren\u2019t gonna come to you for advice when the birth control didn\u2019t\u2019 work and there may be a pregnancy. Or when their current romantic interest is abusing them \u2013 because they do not and cannot feel free to come to you.<\/li>\n
  5. My own thoughts <\/u><\/strong>\u2013 this aspect is perhaps the most difficult for me around freedom. I can be a strongly opinionated person. I have had the blessed opportunity to work with many teachers over the years to distinguish those thoughts and opinions for what they are \u2013 merely my own mental snapshots. And I am not BOUND to keeping them (this has been the most difficult of the work \u2013 separating those thoughts out and being able to distinguish them as such). Most people are just not able to separate those thoughts out \u2013 they think that those thoughts are true. And fact. My attachment to my own thoughts and beliefs is one of the most difficult obstacles to me having a sense of freedom. I mean how can I be free when Trump is \u2026 Or when the thing to do about guns is \u2026 Or when the Maple Leafs blow another series (Sorry Toronto \u2013 had to do that)\u2026 Or really choose any issue, political matter, celebrity, when you have ONE perspective that is right. Our attachment to that position is a distinct obstacle to that sense of freedom we all crave.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
    One form of thought warrants its own section:<\/p>\n
    The background conversation you have about yourself.<\/u><\/strong><\/p>\n
    Most of us have a person that we want to be. A way of life that we want to live. And a way of being that we aspire to always be. We operate those ways a lot of the time. Those ways are all a function of consciousness \u2013 when we are being conscious, and paying attention, and being at cause about who we are, that is who we are being. But who are we being when we are not that conscious person? I like to call that \u201cthe default background being.” The default background being is rarely a positive one. Most people have a fairly extensive suite of bad things they believe about themselves underneath it all \u2013 all of which get great attention from the default background being. Those beliefs are so ingrained that it doesn\u2019t even occur to us that we are having a thought \u2013 it is more like that\u2019s just how things are. Most of the time, we are entirely unaware of them. An example from my life:<\/p>\n
    Back in 1999, I took a course that a bunch of friends were also taking. An acquaintance, Chris, called me to ask why since he was considering it. I gave him a bunch of good reasons, all of which were kind of surface-ish. \u201cI saw what a difference it made for Milt. He said I\u2019d get a lot from it\u2026yada yada.\u201d Chris said \u201cThat\u2019s all well and good, but why did you sign up really?\u201d<\/p>\n
    What blurted out of my mouth next changed my life.<\/p>\n
    Without thinking about it, I said, \u201cYou know \u2013 all the time people are telling me what a great guy they think I am and all that. And just about every time, I immediately have a thought along the lines of \u2018yeah \u2013 but if you knew what a scumbag I really am, you would never like me.’ And I just want to like myself as much as everyone else seems to.\u201d<\/p>\n
    I was unconscious that I had that set of thoughts. Underneath it all, I had a \u201cI\u2019m a scumbag\u201d and \u201cI\u2019m not very likable\u201d and a set of other negative beliefs I had built into the fabric of my life. Two years and four courses it took to get at that one. It never occurred to me that I was not liking myself. It seemed like I kept sabotaging myself. And I kept screwing things up and I kept being slippery about money \u2013 all of which were evidence I was accumulating that the background default being was right.<\/p>\n
    Point being, most of us have a suite of negative thoughts we have about ourselves that truly limit and constrain who we allow ourselves to be and constrain what we allow ourselves to have. If you feel like you don\u2019t deserve something, you will never attract that into your life. If it should somehow accidentally show up, you will sabotage it. Yes, I\u2019m speaking to all you eternally single folks who cannot find the love you want. There is an ocean of wonderful people all around you who are also looking for love, but you\u2019ll need to be worthy of it first.<\/p>\n
    Sadly, there is no easy way to get at this one \u2013 the only path is to become conscious of when it has happened and notice it. Eventually, you\u2019ll have access to seeing it before it happens and heading it off. That\u2019s actually the only path to actually changing anything. Step one is to notice that it happened – again. Step two is to notice that it is happening. Step three is to notice that it is happening earlier. Step four is to notice that it is about to happen. Step five is to notice what seems to trigger it happening. Then step six is addressing whatever that was.<\/p>\n
    The Want Monster<\/u> <\/strong>\u2013 This deserves a small mention. Its impact is probably fairly substantial in your life. In this culture, there is much messaging designed to feed what I like to call the “Want Monster.” It is a never ceasing barrage of messages about things you should want, about reasons why you are insufficient or deficit in something, about creating in you a want for their thing they are selling. Please don\u2019t mistake me. Wanting things is fine. It is perfectly OK to want. Far too many people though spend time and energy pining for stuff that is irrelevant to their lives instead of experiencing the miracle of their life. There is something profoundly peace-causing when one can experience gratitude for what is directly in front of them rather than desire for that which isn\u2019t.<\/p>\n
    Wrapping things up:<\/u><\/strong><\/p>\n
    Back to the original question \u2013 yeah. I\u2019m free as a man. And blessed that I get to have the life I do have instead of so many of the other possible lives. Bringing a bit of consciousness into my life, and being able to distinguish the thoughts that constrain my freedom as thoughts that are not simply true has given me access to that sense of freedom we all crave. I have struggled with freedom in every one of the aspects of freedom I addressed above. We all do. The key, I think is to find the way to frame that thought in a \u201cI choose this…\u201d or an \u201cThis is the path I want…\u201d or a \u201cInteresting fantasy, I enjoyed it…” fashion.<\/p>\n
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